Tuesday, February 18, 2014

What does it mean to be a lover?

Here is something I read that I want to remember and share. I think it can apply to friendship and family and associates and all kinds of relationships, not just those that involve sex or the idea of sex. And not just between human beings, either, but between humans and animals and between humans and natural resources and humans and all of our creations -- and Creation itself.

Love, commitment, sensory fulfillment and delight can happen between any two entities, which is to say, any couple, any pair, any two. When we say "couple" or "partner," we think of the mated human pair. However, we act in partnership and in tandem with "others" every day.

I'm going to insert some of my broader ideas in [brackets] and replace the commonly used terms like partner and couple with [other] so you understand what I'm talking about:


What does it mean to be a lover?


[You as a Conscientious Being]

It is more than just being married to or making love to someone.
[It is more than liking them. More than spending time with them. More than serving them.]
Millions of people are married, millions of people have sex, [millions of people have friends and acquaintances, children and associates]  - but few [who among these] are real lovers?

To be a real lover, you must commit to and participate in a perpetual dance of intimacy with [the other.] [They are akin to a dance partner, sensitive to the subtle nuances in your movements and signals, accepting the carefully guided pressure of their independence and their leadership.]

You are a lover when you appreciate the gift that [the other] is, and celebrate that gift every day.
You are a lover when you remember that [the other] does not belong to you - [they are] on loan from the universe.
You are a lover when you realize that nothing that happens between you [both] will be insignificant, that everything you say in relationship has the potential to cause your beloved joy or sorrow, and everything you do will either strengthen your connection or weaken it.
You are a lover when you understand all this, and thus wake up each morning filled with gratitude that you have another day in which to love and enjoy [the other].

[Being to Being]

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When you have a lover in your life, you are richly blessed. You have given the gift of another who
has chosen to walk beside you. Your lover will share [your time and] your burdens. Your lover will see secret parts of you that no one else sees. Your lover [may] touch places on your body that no one else touches. Your lover will seek you out where you have been hiding, and create a haven for you within safe, loving arms.

Your lover offers you an abundance of miracles every day. [They have] the power to delight you with [a] smile, [their] voice, [their] scent... the way [they] move. [They have] the power to banish your loneliness. [They have] the power to turn the ordinary into the sublime. [They are] your doorway to heaven here on earth.

- Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D. / [Rebecca St. Martin]

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